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"Socialisation" - Turned on Its Head!

5/16/2016

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For the past 20+ years, the question most asked of homeschooling parents has been "But what about socialisation??" The world believes that if you don't send your little darling to hang out with their peers for 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, for 12 years they will emerge into the "real world" lacking in social skills by which they mean the ability to communicate & interact with people in a meaningful, appropriate and healthy way. (Truly, socialisation is something else all together, but I'll leave that for another day's post).

I want to share with you an article recently published in Home Schooling NZ's term newsletter (courtesy of Todd Roughton). Read it, think about it...more comments below....
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Do you get that folks?? Public school students with enough ability to get into Otago Uni, have been proven to be so lacking in appropriate social skills that now the uni is going to include courses to teach them the lacking skills......and meanwhile, a psychology graduate who attended uni as a adult, shares their observations of how socially advanced home educated students are.

Of course, I'm not surprised! But I just love how these two things counterpoint each other, and turn the whole socialisation myth on it's head.

Maybe the next time someone tells you their child goes to school, you should slap your hands to your cheeks, look horrified and say:
"You send your child to public school?? But what about socialisation??!!"*

*Disclaimer: This article is not meant to cause any offense. Its purpose is simply to emphasis the irony and encourage home educating parents that are being bombarded by well-meaning but misinformed socialisation questions that home educated kids usually have very good social skills by the time they are grown, while sending a child to school does not guarantee they will emerge with good social skills.
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Kel Griffiths
5/16/2016 12:00:32 am

Students leave their parents external dicipline and celebrate. The trick must be to allow them to develop internal dicipline while at home, don't Ask me how

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Superkids mum
5/17/2016 04:03:00 am

No.. students leave school and celebrate... often wildly! School is the ultimate constrainer of thought and action... eat now.. pee now and get marks for meeting agreed curriculum goals. There is no internal discipline when its 'pick up your pens now' and pens down later. Our homeschooled (with curriculum to follow) child has to develop those internal disciplines every day without conforming to a scheduled timeline directed for the lowest common time denominater to get the work done like zchool requires to function..... he was bored stupid in school and didnt have any way to just go explore lots more learning opportunities while others were still catching up to him...he is 11 and organizes all his curriculum for online submission by 3pm friday... thats how they develop internally... and the rest of the week? He serves at a shelter... goes to the shops and interacts with adults..at libraries etc... don't knock homeschooling...socialisation starts before kindy or reception... in the home... we just keep doing it when we homeschool...

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Kath 'Erebus' Rushworth
5/16/2017 03:29:11 pm

Neither school nor home education is a guarantee of having a personable child who is capable of healthy and mutually respectful relationship building.

Rest assured that socialisation is a concern that home educators are always made mindful of by detractors, or ignorant people with *concerns* about the welfare of children who are not receiving a familiar form of education.

In my personal experience, for some parents of children in school, "socialisation" is something they take for granted and an idea they don't engage with much.

It is unfortunate, but possible, that a child can be surrounded by people of their age cohort and never be comfortable developing friendships or capable of developing successful interpersonal strategies.

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